Heirarchy of needs

At church a couple weeks ago the preacher said he did some research on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and that there is a growing number of researchers who believe the list might be a bit out of order. He said there are some who believe that even before the base level of physiological needs such as water, food, air etc that human beings need friends. I’m not sure how anything could come before air and the ability to breathe but I’m not a sociologist or anthropologist.

He went on to rattle off a pretty interesting set of statistics stating how many people are in the groups that humans require. I wish I knew where he got that list and its findings because I can’t remember exactly but I think it was based on Dunbar’s number of 150 which is the “limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships.”

He said that we as humans need at least two to three really good friends. You know that friend who you can call in the middle of the night because your dog just died and he or she would come over to help you figure out what to do.

After that the number I think jumps up to 32 or was it 52? Ugh, I can’t remember… and I think the group was the people who are in your close circle; family, close friends. Then I think came 150. That is Dunbar’s number. He described these people as those who are in our tribe. The mechanic who knows your car, the lady at the deli who knows what cuts of meat you like and knows the name of your kids when you come to the counter… those people.

He said in the stages of human evolution, this is where we stopped… 150. For some reason the way are brains evolved, we simply couldn’t and according to recent studies, still can’t, go past 150. Way back in the day, when the tribe started to grow beyond that it would break off and a new tribe was started and it would begin again. And these little nodes of 150 would make up clans and villages and so on.

So with that in mind, I’d like to thank you my fellow Zero to Hero bloggers. Thank you for letting me be part of your 150. I can feel a kinship growing and I hope to continue that connection and stay part of the tribe. Michelle said The Daily Post is going to be starting a Writing 101 starting soon. I think I might try my hand at that as well as the YeahWrite.me challenges now that Blogging U. 101 is over. Maybe I’ll see some of you there?

For now though, congrats to all of you!!!


Weekly Photo challenge: on the move

Something i haven’t mentioned here on the ol’ aBoyNamedSue blog is that I love to ride bicycles. The featured image is my current fave… a 1999 Trek 720 hybrid. One could easily argue i am bit obsessed about bicycles as i currently have eight bicycles in my stable… and those are just mine.

Hey don’t judge, besides some one will be used for parts and three will be sold. Hopefully.

Anyway, my wife and the boy share my love for riding bikes, too — maybe not quite as intensely — but they are pretty enthusiastic when we make a plan to go to a nearby cycling trail.

So for the Daily Post’s Weekly Photo Challenge, I thought it appropriate that I use some pics from a recent ride out at Terry Hershey Park. That’s because the theme for the challenge was “On The Move”.

The daily post added a little extra challenge in doing this post with the WP app. All pics were taken with my cell phone. This post was written and posted using the WP app on an iPhone S4.

20140513-144147.jpgThe view and scenery at the park can be pretty nice. 😀

20140513-144201.jpgMrs aBNS getting ready to shove off.

20140513-144211.jpgaBoyNamed Sue’s really nice legs. They are nice right? *crickets chirping in background* Hey! quit staring at the wife’s butt and look at my legs!

20140513-144232.jpgSerenity now!!!


The rarest of commodities

83880392I’m having a hard time keeping up. The phrase “so much to do and so little time” really applies to me right now. I feel like although I’m moving forward and staying afloat, there is a LOT of turbulance and controlled chaos underneath the calm sheen.

And this lack of time is not because of anything really special. I mean other people have similar things going on in their life I’m sure. I mean my stuff isn’t out of the ordinary:

* I go to work and have a butt-load of stuff to do and not enough time to do it;
* I have a part-time handyman business that keeps me busy most weekends;
* because of that, I have projects unfinished or unstarted around my house;
* I’m about 20 (fine!… I’ll be honest) 28 pounds overweight and have little time to get out and ride my bike;
* I have hobbies that I would love to be more practiced in but pursuing them fully would be a luxury.
* And with Blogging U. 101’s Zero to Hero challenge… well, at least I’ve read the emails.


Duck PictureI have a friend who confided in me that she feels like she’s having a mid-life crisis. My immediate thought was “oh crap, she’s not gonna go out and buy herself a shiny, red sports car, dump her hubby and come to church with a 20-something bit of eye candy wrapped around her arm is she?”

Of course, I know she wouldn’t and after talking for a bit she said she just wishes she had more time. Wishes things were… well, here’s what she said.

“I’m so totally overwhelmed with what is absolutely not one single thing more than a normal, everyday life. I just want to simplify so badly.”

Yep… me, too kid. Me, too.

Note: I wish I knew who to give credit to the photo in my featured image. I found it at the website, http://takalimc.blogspot.ca/,  but when saving the image saw that it came from tumblr. So to person who took this photo, please I wasn’t trying to rip-off your work without proper attribution.

day 24: Blogging U. 101 – publish a roundup

Day 24!
The Blogging U 101 assignment has us doing something that I’ve never done before and that is post a round up.

Alright, I’ve got a little confession.


Every now and again my inner conspiracy theorist gets the best of me and I will spend HOURS watching youtube vids about chem trails, Agenda 21, Reptilian Humanoids, the Illuminati New World Order, mandatory RFID chips, etc.  I don’t know why. It fascinates me.

And although some might say the above list is absolute nonsense, I thought I’d give you a round up of a few that are a little more difficult to dismiss. Dismissible perhaps… but more difficult than the above list.  So without further ado…

#1. Why has the Dept of Homeland Security purchased 1.6 million rounds of ammunition?

I listen to a lot of conservative talk radio… (hey don’t judge! sometimes self flatulence is in order. Wait, um…. flagellation. I meant flagellation. I suddenly feel like Sarah Palin.)

new take on the Gonzalez Flag

new take on the Gonzalez Flag

Anyways!… so there are a lot of right-wing, tea party types who are rabid about the 2nd ammendment and believe it is in place to be able to fend off the government.

Let me tell ya something. I was in the military. I’ve seen up close and personal some of the toys the DoD has to play with and I can guaran-damn-tee you that your little .22 AR-15 isn’t gonna do shit to an even a mediocre equipped government funded militia. It sure as hell helps prevent tyranny and blow away that intruder who comes in at 3am though.

But when Forbes is doing an article about DHS buying up ammo, it does make you scratch your head a little.


#2 Why are the honeybees dying?

This one is actually pretty damn fascinating and kinda blends in with the Agenda 21 population control crazies. Here are a couple of facts for you to simmer on: honey bee populations are dying at an alarming rate and about Continue reading