Heirarchy of needs

At church a couple weeks ago the preacher said he did some research on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and that there is a growing number of researchers who believe the list might be a bit out of order. He said there are some who believe that even before the base level of physiological needs such as water, food, air etc that human beings need friends. I’m not sure how anything could come before air and the ability to breathe but I’m not a sociologist or anthropologist.

He went on to rattle off a pretty interesting set of statistics stating how many people are in the groups that humans require. I wish I knew where he got that list and its findings because I can’t remember exactly but I think it was based on Dunbar’s number of 150 which is the “limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships.”

He said that we as humans need at least two to three really good friends. You know that friend who you can call in the middle of the night because your dog just died and he or she would come over to help you figure out what to do.

After that the number I think jumps up to 32 or was it 52? Ugh, I can’t remember… and I think the group was the people who are in your close circle; family, close friends. Then I think came 150. That is Dunbar’s number. He described these people as those who are in our tribe. The mechanic who knows your car, the lady at the deli who knows what cuts of meat you like and knows the name of your kids when you come to the counter… those people.

He said in the stages of human evolution, this is where we stopped… 150. For some reason the way are brains evolved, we simply couldn’t and according to recent studies, still can’t, go past 150. Way back in the day, when the tribe started to grow beyond that it would break off and a new tribe was started and it would begin again. And these little nodes of 150 would make up clans and villages and so on.

So with that in mind, I’d like to thank you my fellow Zero to Hero bloggers. Thank you for letting me be part of your 150. I can feel a kinship growing and I hope to continue that connection and stay part of the tribe. Michelle said The Daily Post is going to be starting a Writing 101 starting soon. I think I might try my hand at that as well as the YeahWrite.me challenges now that Blogging U. 101 is over. Maybe I’ll see some of you there?

For now though, congrats to all of you!!!


The rarest of commodities

83880392I’m having a hard time keeping up. The phrase “so much to do and so little time” really applies to me right now. I feel like although I’m moving forward and staying afloat, there is a LOT of turbulance and controlled chaos underneath the calm sheen.

And this lack of time is not because of anything really special. I mean other people have similar things going on in their life I’m sure. I mean my stuff isn’t out of the ordinary:

* I go to work and have a butt-load of stuff to do and not enough time to do it;
* I have a part-time handyman business that keeps me busy most weekends;
* because of that, I have projects unfinished or unstarted around my house;
* I’m about 20 (fine!… I’ll be honest) 28 pounds overweight and have little time to get out and ride my bike;
* I have hobbies that I would love to be more practiced in but pursuing them fully would be a luxury.
* And with Blogging U. 101’s Zero to Hero challenge… well, at least I’ve read the emails.


Duck PictureI have a friend who confided in me that she feels like she’s having a mid-life crisis. My immediate thought was “oh crap, she’s not gonna go out and buy herself a shiny, red sports car, dump her hubby and come to church with a 20-something bit of eye candy wrapped around her arm is she?”

Of course, I know she wouldn’t and after talking for a bit she said she just wishes she had more time. Wishes things were… well, here’s what she said.

“I’m so totally overwhelmed with what is absolutely not one single thing more than a normal, everyday life. I just want to simplify so badly.”

Yep… me, too kid. Me, too.

Note: I wish I knew who to give credit to the photo in my featured image. I found it at the website, http://takalimc.blogspot.ca/,  but when saving the image saw that it came from tumblr. So to person who took this photo, please I wasn’t trying to rip-off your work without proper attribution.

Day 20: Blogging U. 101 – add a page

I’ve always thought that having a contact page of some sorts on a blog was sort of… I don’t know, unnecessary or a bit pretentious. I mean, if someone wants to say something to the blogger certainly they will do it in the comments.

However, going through the excercise of The Daily Post’s Blogging U. 101 and ‘meeting’ so many of my ‘classmates’, I have found a number of times where I would have liked to say something offline.

So with that in mind, for Day 21 of the Zero to Hero Blogging U. 101 assignment I’ve added a contact page.

Feel free to send me a message any time.


Day 19: Blogging U. 101 – Try a new posting style

So for this Blogging U. 101 assignment I’m trying the Quote post format. Post formating is something I only recently learned and finally understand what it’s purpose is. Meh. It’s ok I guess.


I’ve mentioned that I used to maintain a blog some time ago using wordpress and that part of the reason I stopped was because I lost focus, my anonymity had been lifted somewhat and something i hadn’t mentioned before was that I lost my WP community.

I’m convinced part of the reason for that is 1) Facebook was gaining wildly in its popularity, 2) Twitter was finding its legs and pulling people to its platform, 3) people can only maintain interest in an endeavor like writing/blogging for so long and 4) WordPress itself Continue reading